2021/06/29 Youth Group


Opening Prayer: 

  • Cyndi


  • Flyers for BTN week (7/13-7/17)
  • Flyers for Beach Trip (7/5/21@9AM)


  • Dodgeball in the dojo

Fire Drill:

  • False Alarm (dust)


  • 5 minutes (no new earned notebooks)

Cyndi’s Talk: 21 Questions

Healthy/unhealthy/abusive activity

  1. Your Partner/friend gets mad when you don’t text or call them back right away (abusive)
  2. Your partner tells you they don’t feel comfortable with how handsy a co worker is with them (healthy)
  3. Your partner tells you they don’t want you to hang out with your friends or family (abusive)
  4. Your partner makes a lot of effort to spend time with your friends/family (healthy)
  5. Your partner calls you pet names that are insults. (I.E., my little dummy, or my chubby bunny) (unhealthy, sometimes)
  6. Your friend gives you an ultimatum that either you stop hanging out with a friend, or they leave. (abusive)
  7. Your partner tells you what to wear or what not to wear (abusive)
  8. Your partner has big mood swings. They get angry and yell at you one minute, but are sweet and apologetic the next. (unhealthy)
  9. Your partner asks for all your passwords to your phone an social media (unhealthy)
  10. You are leaving for a day trip with your family. Your partner asks you to text them when you get home to let them know you’re safe. (healthy)
  11. Your friend repeatedly gets angry and yells and then says it’s your fault they get so angry (abusive)
  12. Your partner tells you you’re lucky to have them because you’re not good at making decisions by yourself (abusive)
  13. Your partner tells you that they are the best person that you could get (abusive)
  14. Your partner says they will kill themselves if you leave (abusive)
  15. Your partner and you are in a fight and your partner says they’re really upset and need a break and ask to talk about this later. (healthy)
  16. Your partner threatens to destroy your stuff (abusive)
  17. Your partner/friend physically hurts you (abusive)
  18. Your partner humiliates you in public (unhealthy-abusive)
  19. Your partner both have hobbies and alone time separate from each other (healthy)
  20. Your partner pressures you to go father physically than you are comfortable with (unhealthy-abusive)
  21. Your partner asks you to sneak out to see them after your parents say no (unhealthy)

Scripture References:

  • 1 Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres”
  • 2 Timothy 3:1-8 ESV “But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people”
  • Proverbs 10:11 “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.”

Conclusion: God is not cool with abuse. He’s also not cool with us just hiding it and taking it. If we really love someone, we won’t let them continue to abuse us because it’s bad for their soul as well. If God doesn’t want us to sin because it harms us and separates us from him, then allowing someone that you love to abuse you isn’t the most loving thing for them. 

Small Groups: Take some time in your discussion groups to talk through some scenarios and ask and answer questions. (out of time)


  1. Karyn E
  2. Ezra E
  3. Cyndi E
  4. Jenn H
  5. Josiah E
  6. Noah E 
  7. Zion E
  8. Eden E
  9. Bryan S
  10. Angela H
  11. Samantha H
  12. Remy H
  13. Ezra W
  14. Oliver W
  15. Alora D
  16. Carrie D
  17. Mateo C
  18. Sid V
  19. Chris R
  20. Piper R
  21. Kennedy C
  22. Tessa C (first week)
  23. Levi L (first week) 
  24. Leah C (second week)
  25. Eden E (third week)
  26. Charlie D (third week)
  27. Isella W (third week)